This book presents a model of authoritative parenting that makes room for imperfection, focusing on the skills needed to build a strong parent-child relationship.
As parents, we often worry we amp rsquo re making the wrong decisions. The good news is, having a strong relationship with your child means you can make a parenting blunder from time to time, and exercise grace and patience to try again.
Written for parents of children from birth to young adulthood (ages -24), this book helps you examine your role as a guide, cheerleader, advocate, and most importantly, as a human being who doesn amp rsquo t always have the right answers. While your child amp rsquo s brain, body, emotions, and social abilities develop over time, author Dona Matthews shows how your skills as a parent can be developed too, by practicing relationship fundamentals such as acceptance, positivity, social support, boundaries, respect, self-care, and gratitude.
Rooted in the latest findings from neuroscience and psychology, this book presents a model of authoritative parenting that embraces imperfection. Each chapter focuses on a key relationship skill for parenting, with tips on how to practice it during different stages of your child amp rsquo s growth and in common stressful situations such as social, school, health, and family scenarios.
Acknowledgments
Introduction
Chapter . Who Are You As a Parent?
Parenting Styles
Good-Enough Parenting
Is Your Child Friendly and Optimistic? Or Fierce and Feisty?
Taking It Into the Community: Positive Connections
Key Takeaways: How to Be a Good-Enough Parent for Your Child
Chapter 2. How Human Beings Make Mistakes, Fix Them, and Grow
Examples of Mistakes People Make
Mindsets
Punishment, Time-Outs, and Consequences
Responding to Mistakes and Misbehavior by Age
Taking It Into the Community: Making Lemonade When Life Gives You Lemons
Key Takeaways: Using a Growth Mindset to Respond to Mistakes and Fix Them
Chapter 3. Accept and Be Mindful: Take a Breath, You Are Enough
Mindfulness Quiz
How Does Mindfulness Work?
Some Examples of Mindfulness in Practice
Mindfulness Meditation: Getting Started
Why It amp rsquo s Good to Be a Mindful Parent
Relax and Be Happy, Especially if You amp rsquo re a Mother
How to Be a Mindful Parent
Affirmations and Mantras
How to Nurture Your Child amp rsquo s Mindfulness
Taking It Into the Community: Being Mindful About Racism and Equity
Key Takeaways: Learning to Be Here Now
Chapter 4. Care For Yourself, and You'll Help Your Child Care for Themself
A Self-Care Quiz
The Early Years: Birth to 5
Childhood: to
Adolescence: to 8
Young Adulthood: 9 to 24
Taking It Into the Community: Sunnydale Elementary School amp rsquo s Garden
Key Takeaways: Self-Care Is the Foundation of Everything Else in Life
Chapter 5. Each of Us Is Unique: Brain Building Together
Neural Plasticity
The Early Years: Conception to 5
Childhood: to
Adolescence: to 8
Young Adulthood: 9 to 24
How to Support Your Child amp rsquo s Optimal Brain Development
Taking It Into the Community: Parenting Centers
Key Takeaways for Healthy Brain Building
Chapter . Don't Stop Learning: You Can Keep Getting Smarter
Controversies and Misconceptions
What Do IQ Tests Measure?
Abilities Develop
The Early Years: Birth to 5
Childhood: to
Adolescence: to 8
Young Adulthood: 9 to 24
Taking It Into the Community: Neighborhood Reading Circles
Key Takeaways for Healthy Learning Across the Lifespan
Chapter 7. Nurture Your Creativity and Creative Self-Expression
What Is Creativity?
Some Dimensions of Creativity
The Early Years: Birth to 5
Childhood: to
Adolescence: to 8
Young Adulthood: 9 to 24
Taking It Into the Community: Creative Problem Solving in Action
Key Takeaways for Weaving Creativity Into Everyday Life
Chapter 8. Choose Love, Positivity, Caring, and Connection
Empathy: Where Kindness, Compassion, and Happiness Begin
Friendship
Self-Control: Staying Calm, Focused, Present, and Reasonable
A Positive Attitude
Happiness
Self-Confidence
The Early Years: Birth to 5
Childhood: to
Adolescence: to 8
Young Adulthood: 9 to 24
Taking It Into the Community: Taking Social and Emotional Skills to School
Key Takeaways: It amp rsquo s All About Connection
Chapter 9. Be the Adult in the Room: Not Perfect, but Wise
Complications Quiz
Bullying
Technology: Use Mindfully
Separation and Divorce
Alternative Family Composition
Wise Parenting Practices for Alternative Families
The Early Years: Birth to 5
Childhood: to
Adolescence: to 8
Young Adulthood: 9 to 24
Complications Quiz Discussion
Taking It Into the Community: Acknowledge Your Wounds, Look for Help, and Reach Out to Others
Key Takeaways: Clearing a Path Toward Wisdom
Chapter . We're All in This Together: Listen, Connect, and Collaborate
Advocacy: Making Connections for Making a Difference
Eulogy Virtues Are More Important Than R amp eacute sum amp eacute Virtues
The Early Years: Birth to 5
Childhood: to
Adolescence: to 8
Young Adulthood: 9 to 24
Taking It Into the Community: Being the Village
Key Takeaways for Weathering the Storms That Life Brings
Notes
Index
About the Author
Dona Matthews, PhD, has worked with children, families, and schools since 99 , and is currently in private practice in Toronto, Canada. She was executive director, Millennium Dialogue on Early Child Development, University of Toronto, and founding director, Hunter College Center for Gifted Studies and Education, City University of New York. She has published widely on child and adolescent development, education, and supporting special needs. She frequently shares with parents ways to practice love and respect during each phase of their child amp rsquo s development, learning and growing alongside their children. Follow Dr. Matthews at her Psychology Today blog, amp ldquo Going Beyond Intelligence. amp rdquo
